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• Basics of hospitality
  • “Pleasantest of all ties is the tie of host and guest.”—The Libation Bearers, Aeschylus
  • What every party should have
    • Clean
    • Designated smoking area
    • Rules posted
      • No means no
      • No drunks
      • Don’t interrupt someone else’s scene
      • No pictures or video
    • Plenty of toilet paper IN THE BATHROOM
    • A “no sex” room for people to escape to
    • Finger Food
    • No children
    • Music/Entertainment
      • iPod or DJ
      • Games to get things going:
        • Pin the penis on the man
        • Suck and blow
        • Clove and fruit
• Size?
  • Residential
    • Large — 25 people per public room
    • Medium — 18 people per public room
    • Small - 12 people per public room
    • Note: Not everyone will come at the same time, unless you have a door locks time set. Decrease in size if you do so.
  • Commercial
    • Capacity dictated by Law.
    • No illegal activities permitted
    • Ask to close bar or limit to beer and wine
• Host vs. participant
  • Small — Medium: you can play; you may even be a catalyst. If catalyst, be prepared to act early and often.
  • Medium-Large: you need monitors, you are best, but responsible volunteers are good too
• Guest list
  • All known to you or one of you’re a-list friends
  • Blend of experienced and new and enthusiastic
  • Cover charge? I do not recommend itÉ opens you up to vice charges
• Theme?
  • Drag/girls night
    • Karaoke
    • Watch episodes of RuPaul’s Drag Race or Queer Eye
    • Open bar/byob
  • Sex Toy Parties
    • Be sure it is not to be delivered, but onsite to encourage use after
  • Dinner Parties
    • Velvet Mafia
      • Old queens in Jax
      • Fancy dinner party
      • Served by young hotties who are available for “dessert”
      • Look to friends and/or models (catering gig followed by orgy)
    • Guess who?
      • Remote control vibrating toys
      • Must guess who has your remote by end of evening
    • Agape dinner
      • Can only feed others
      • Lounging decadence
  • Costume
    • 15th century: It’s good to be the king
      • Peasants and Nobles
    • Daniel Nardicio-esque
      • Underwear only
      • Jackoff competition
    • Eyes Wide Shut
      • Masked
      • Sacred sexuality
  • Babylon
    • Front room — Club Party
      • Dance club
      • Soap bubbles
      • King Competition
    • Back room — more versatile
      • Anonymous sex
      • “furniture”
        • bench
        • Golden apple
  • White Party
    • Circuit party
    • Now sometimes a fund raiser, which interferes with gratuitous sex
    • Men in White
    • Can be replicated on smaller scale in right home
  • Black party
    • Heavy and hedonistic
    • Leather and chain
    • Casual — no lasting entanglements, no regrets
    • Attendees are a top or a bottom, period.
  • S&M
    • Little or no alcohol
    • Private and public play space
    • Provide props
    • Furniture
    • Dungeon monitor
    • Many activities illegal in Massachusetts
    • Alcohol and drugs are frowned upon
    • Dangerous activities
    • Safe, Sane, Consensual
    • Risk Aware Consensual Kink (or Risk-Accepted)
  • Orgy
    • Condoms and lube
    • Spontaneous: Plants
    • Singles, booty calls, and poly make best guests
    • Encourage partners to discuss their boundaries before attending
    • No drunks
  • Gang Bang
    • Not spontaneous
    • More than willing volunteer
    • Dependable, respectful guests
    • Papers
    • Supplies
• Parties I do not approve of:
  • Bareback parties: gloveless sex parties
  • Bug parties: bare and positive.
    • Beware bug chasers and gift givers
    • Hello?! It is a virus; do not make it stronger through interaction with its variant strains
  • PNP (Party and Play)
    • Crystal meth most common, cocaine, MDMA, ketamine
    • Research shows leads to barebacking, through rebellion or negligence
• How to be a good guest:
  • Follow the rules
  • Don’t get too inebriated
  • Always greet you host
  • Always thank your host for a lovely time
  • Don’t bring drama with you
  • If you came as a couple, leave as a couple (or more)
  • Don’t bring people who don’t want to join in

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