Share on ... Twitter Facebook Pinterest How to Host a Gay Man's Play Party Basics of hospitality “Pleasantest of all ties is the tie of host and guest.”—The Libation Bearers, Aeschylus What every party should have Clean Designated smoking area Rules posted No means no No drunks Don’t interrupt someone else’s scene No pictures or video Plenty of toilet paper IN THE BATHROOM A “no sex” room for people to escape to Finger Food No children Music/Entertainment iPod or DJ Games to get things going: Pin the penis on the man Suck and blow Clove and fruit Size? Residential Large — 25 people per public room Medium — 18 people per public room Small - 12 people per public room Note: Not everyone will come at the same time, unless you have a door locks time set. Decrease in size if you do so. Commercial Capacity dictated by Law. No illegal activities permitted Ask to close bar or limit to beer and wine Host vs. participant Small — Medium: you can play; you may even be a catalyst. If catalyst, be prepared to act early and often. Medium-Large: you need monitors, you are best, but responsible volunteers are good too Guest list All known to you or one of you’re a-list friends Blend of experienced and new and enthusiastic Cover charge? I do not recommend itÉ opens you up to vice charges Theme? Drag/girls night Karaoke Watch episodes of RuPaul’s Drag Race or Queer Eye Open bar/byob Sex Toy Parties Be sure it is not to be delivered, but onsite to encourage use after Dinner Parties Velvet Mafia Old queens in Jax Fancy dinner party Served by young hotties who are available for “dessert” Look to friends and/or models (catering gig followed by orgy) Guess who? Remote control vibrating toys Must guess who has your remote by end of evening Agape dinner Can only feed others Lounging decadence Costume 15th century: It’s good to be the king Peasants and Nobles Daniel Nardicio-esque Underwear only Jackoff competition Eyes Wide Shut Masked Sacred sexuality Babylon Front room — Club Party Dance club Soap bubbles King Competition Back room — more versatile Anonymous sex “furniture” bench Golden apple White Party Circuit party Now sometimes a fund raiser, which interferes with gratuitous sex Men in White Can be replicated on smaller scale in right home Black party Heavy and hedonistic Leather and chain Casual — no lasting entanglements, no regrets Attendees are a top or a bottom, period. S&M Little or no alcohol Private and public play space Provide props Furniture Dungeon monitor Many activities illegal in Massachusetts Alcohol and drugs are frowned upon Dangerous activities Safe, Sane, Consensual Risk Aware Consensual Kink (or Risk-Accepted) Orgy Condoms and lube Spontaneous: Plants Singles, booty calls, and poly make best guests Encourage partners to discuss their boundaries before attending No drunks Gang Bang Not spontaneous More than willing volunteer Dependable, respectful guests Papers Supplies Parties I do not approve of: Bareback parties: gloveless sex parties Bug parties: bare and positive. Beware bug chasers and gift givers Hello?! It is a virus; do not make it stronger through interaction with its variant strains PNP (Party and Play) Crystal meth most common, cocaine, MDMA, ketamine Research shows leads to barebacking, through rebellion or negligence How to be a good guest: Follow the rules Don’t get too inebriated Always greet you host Always thank your host for a lovely time Don’t bring drama with you If you came as a couple, leave as a couple (or more) Don’t bring people who don’t want to join in Last modified: 2017/12/04 17:23by John Bell